A psychological expert emphasizes the importance of early, clear communication between parents and teenagers about recognizing and reporting signs of self-harm, amid rising concerns over adolescent mental health and global suicide rates.
A roomful of teenagers erupted into argument when asked whether texting a friend’s parent behind that friend’s back was helpful or harmful. Most said harmful, because it could destroy trust, create trouble at home and make a friend feel betrayed. That reaction is understandable, but it is precisely why parents need to talk early and clearly with children about what to do when a friend may be at risk of self-harm.
The writer says the issue became personal in eighth grade, when she noticed a friend’s self-inflicted injuries and was asked to keep silent. She agreed, then spent the night wrestling with a fear that the promise could cost her friend’s life. Her conclusion has stayed with her for years: a friendship can be repaired, but a life cannot be replaced. That lesson is the heart of the article’s message to parents and caregivers.
The World Health Organisation says suicide is a major global health problem, with more than 720,000 deaths a year and the third-highest cause of death among people aged 15 to 29 worldwide. The agency also says many mental health conditions begin by age 18 but often go undetected and untreated, making adolescent support especially urgent. Against that backdrop, the writer argues that teens need help distinguishing ordinary loyalty from the kind of secrecy that can put someone in danger.
The article urges parents to make the rule explicit: if a friend is talking about self-harm or seems at immediate risk, telling a trusted adult is not betrayal but protection. It also suggests giving children simple language they can use, such as saying they care, cannot keep the secret and need to involve someone who can help. Parents are encouraged to reassure children that they will not be punished for raising a concern, and to make clear that the same applies if their own child ever needs help. The conversation may feel uncomfortable, the writer says, but it is far easier to have it before a crisis than after one.
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